i wonder how many people would actually care if i died, i mean really care, not just be sad because they’re being polite, who would be crushed, who would scream for me to come back, i wonder who would think of me everyday after i was gone. probably no one, but it would be nice if even just one person was truly upset.
Being happy when you’re not around was never become my expertise. So please don’t let me enjoy the crash course.
Head over heels.
Yes, I will. And yes, I am. :)
Love is a friendship set on fire. And sometimes, the best way to stay close to someone you love is by being just a friend. Love is unlimited, knows no boundary and has no end. Once you love deeply, it’ll never stop, it’ll never be forgotten. I will choose to continually love him, in whatever form ‘he’ may choose to regard me. Loving is not about crossing the boundaries between friendship and something-they-call-it. Loving is simply loving.
Sustainability is the key. We’re friends, and forever will be. Its better to have him as a friend, rather to not have him at all.
Thus, what is happening today, will surely not be the exact thing that will happen tomorrow. I don’t want to have too much high hopes for anything, but I solemnly believe in the power of change.
Did I answer your question, Mr/Ms. Anonymous? I hope I did. :)
Formspring me!
And since my Formspring account got so boring and a little-less-exciting these past few months. I have decided to answer some questions, one time big time.
With the six-hundred plus pending questions on my FS inbox, here are some questions which I really put my time and effort in answering to, so please, appreciate. (HAHAHA)
Jan Alcoba asks: Kapag inamin ng boyfriend or girlfriend mo na nakipag one-night stand sya sa iba, (for the sake na honest sya at ayaw niyang sa iba mo pa malaman), tatanggapin mo pa ba sya at magbibigay ng 2nd chance? Mahal na mahal mo sya. -reposted.
Bianca says: It shows honesty, but it doesn’t show faithfulness. Basically, being honest won’t change anything. He/she is just trying to clean the mess that ‘they’ve’ done. He/she cheated, it happened. And to answer your question, ready yourself for my big NO. Everyone deserves a second chance, everyone, not everything. The subject here is the act of cheating, and not the person who cheated. Can you afford to feel the pain of being cheated again? Or, can you afford to be cheated by the same person all over again? We are talking about the feeling, and not the person. It is never an issue of giving second chances, its about the trust that was lost, and the feeling we are all trying to avoid.
True love deserves a good recipient. True love-givers deserve to be in a faithful and happy relationship.
ibelongtoeson asks: Anong unang pumasok sa isip mo pagnabasa/narinig mo ang “nakakapagod noh?”?
Bianca says: Literal interpretation, someone’s tired and he/she is trying to ask for clarification by saying “noh?” Ang ganda ko, noh?
nadia1017 asks: Why does God allow bad things to happen to good people?
Bianca says: He allowed things to happen to and for everyone, regardless of how good or bad you are. If you’re experiencing difficulties but you can find the reason why, look up and ask for strength, peace of mind and guidance. Everything that is happening in this world has its purpose. You might not see it, but it surely have one.
ibelongtoeson asks: What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?
Bianca says: To please everybody. I have always been a fan of such unattainable dream. But if given the chance of succeeding by just trying, why not?
ibelongtoeson asks: Have you ever tried to find the words but they don’t come out right?
Bianca says: I kept on finding the right words every time I speak. But due to my attitude of being so spontaneous about how I really feel, I usually fail at the midst of my search for the ‘right words’. For me, there’s no such thing as ‘right words’. Being true to what you really feel and letting words to come out naturally will never be lost on track.
ibelongtoeson asks: Why do we often end up losing ourselves trying to hold onto people who never CARED about losing us?
Bianca says: Because we are fan of doing ‘too much’. Thinking too much, giving too much, loving too much, expecting too much.We can’t force someone to care about our lost. As much as you dont want other people to control you, same thing will be for others.
Its all the mind, baby. If you will not let go of the things that caused you to lose yourself, you will really end up losing one. Never let anyone control you. Be with the people who brings out the best and not the worst in you. Leave the negativity and live positively. Again, its all the mind. Start doing a new routine. Do what makes you happy.
midnytphantom asks: BAkit kaya ang pinoy.. Alam nang mabaho ang isang bagay.. aamuyin pa din??
Bianca says: This is the funniest question. Hahahaha! Sometimes, we obviously know the fact, but we are still in need of evidence to believe in the fact wholly.
Truly for me that I am not convinced with pure words alone. In food, when someone says its delicious, how will I know if the food’s really delicious if I wont let its goodness be felt by my tongue? In places, when someone says its beautiful, how will I know if the place’s beautiful if I will not check it myself? This goes the same with smelling. How will you know it’s smell if you wont let your nose be exposed with it? Would you rely on facts? Or you will have the courage to smell it yourself to find out what.
Pero pag tae ang usapan, tsong, alam na alam mong mabaho yun, wag mo naman nang amuyin pa. HAHAHAHAHAHA
Ceteris Paribus: “with other things the same,” or “all other things being equal or held constant.”
When delivering words that was rooted from your hypothalamus, there is 50% probability of getting the outcome you desire, and the other half goes with getting what is right. In a layman’s term, in telling someone how you feel about them or how much they made you feel about a certain issue or event, there is, and there will always be, unsure points were you’ll be dealing with outcomes you are not ready to have a face-to-face with.
Getting what we want is a plus, while getting what is right is a blessing. At this point in time, I have came across with different cliff-hanging decision making. And up until this moment, I still don’t know if I happen to follow the prescribe “how-to manual” in dealing with the after shocks.
Making a decision is never easy. Regardless of what level of decision making you are in, again, it is not easy. Choosing what food to eat, what movie to watch, what clothes to wear, what errand to do first, to buy new shoes or to save, to patch things up with someone or not, to sleep or to surf, or even the decision on what to put on your status update or what thought you should write using a 140-character twitter app.
So how possible it is for a blog entry to discuss about decision making when in fact, it’s title is about being constant. Beautifully ironic.
Have you ever felt the need of telling someone how you feel? But too afraid with what comes next? Questions like:
“I want to tell him/her how much he/she pissed me off, but I am too afraid to bump into the consequences that might occur in our relationship?” (Relationship in general, friends, family, classmate, office mate, board mate, etc)
“I want to tell him/her how much burden he/she puts in me, but I am too afraid that he/she takes it seriously that his/her impression about me, changed?”
“I want to tell him/her how much I love him/her and how much joy he/she brings in me in every single act of each day, but too afraid that our friendship will be affected, worst, nothing will be recovered and everything has to be over.”
It is doubtful to rely on your emotions. Sometimes, it exaggerates everything and come to a point where you have to be ready with what consequences you have to face when you let those emotions become verbrating.
For me, being honest with yourself is good, but being honest with someone is better. But——
We never know how the other one thinks, we never know how angled the perspective of an issue it is for them, we never know how much it takes for them to hear everything you want to say, lastly, we have no control on what ever reaction their hypothalamus will has to feel. We do not know. We will never know.
“The only constant thing in the world is change.”
When you buy something, the amount of money in your wallet changed. When you write love letters, the amount of ink in your pen changed. When you walk, the amount of calories in your body changed. When you eat, the amount of fats in your system changed. When you sleep, the amount of time left in your life changed. Every single action leads us to changes. Every little thing we do has the capability of changing. Thus, in telling someone how you feel, the least thing you can do is to expect for changes, because that’s the only thing that is constant. Am I leading to some point here, bro?
But, can we held things constant? Can we not change anything? Can we still be whatever-we-are after confessing? Can we? More like, shall we?
I am not sure if I’m leading to something great here. But I surely believe that there’s always an excemption to the rule, like if everything changes, there will still be tiny little things that can be subject for consistency.
May this arguments be settled by Your will oh, Lord. I am lifting everything to You, now. I may be hyped with the emotions that I am feeling right now, but I know that everything is according to Your plans and Your will. I have nothing in regret for what I have done, but I’m still praying for your guidance for what the future has in stored for us.
This too shall pass.
You’re doomed.
Being a ‘single’ was never an issue for me. Like, if you were in a relationship, does that makes you ‘double’? Yes, it can double up the happiness brought by the idea of enjoying each other’s company, it can make your day so fulfilling that you can’t see anyone but your partner, it can relieve all the stress and source of depression because there’s this someone who can be your stress ball. And that’s the way it is, when you’re in a relationship, you’re doomed.
And oh, did I mentioned about being in love? You got that right boo, I didn’t. Because being in a relationship is not synonymous with being in love.
When you’re in love, the least thing that you can do is to love. Commitment is secondary. Because when you’re in-love, committing yourself to the one you ‘love’ will be your personal responsibility. Celebrating a particular day of the month is not necessary. Couple shirts, couple-everything is not a must. All you need to do is to love. Love which leads you to understanding, trust and caring. Isn’t it sweet when there is someone who updates you will all his/her whereabouts, with what he/she had experienced all through out the day, trusting you with what he/she feels about a certain aspect of their life? You know it is not an requirement, but the feeling that it caused you is so indescribable for you to spend the whole night thinking! Oopsie, and the best thing you can do with this kind of relationship is to train your guards well, don’t let them down, dear. You are ‘friends’, but you’re close enough to be friends. The other’s sweet, and deal with it, you can’t stop yourself from returning the sweetness. You got so attached, got so clingy, got so comfortable with each other, and not a single day will pass without the both of you, conversing. But when everything get so complicated, get so demanding, crucial and dramatic, someone will get tired, someone will stop caring, some feeling will change, someone will leave, he will find someone new, she will need some space away from you. And when that happened, you’re doomed. ‘Nothing to do here’. You will be left with no choice, because you’re not committed. All the cheers in the world, for the one that got away!
When you’re in a relationship, you are bound to love each other unconditionally. You are ought to do everything to make your partner happy, you are obliged to be a better person for somebody, you need promises to strengthen the assurance, you need to celebrate each month because if you don’t,— its boring, you need to be as sweet as a honey, you need to prepare yourself when dealing with your partner’s group of company, you have to let the Facebook know that you’re official, you have to incredibly post on a wall to tell him/her how much he/she worth, you have to stretch all the means of sweetness for the other to be fulfilled. Things like this will always be present in every relationship. One will expect, the other will be disappointed. One will give to much, while the other will take things for granted. Promises will be broken, the foundation of friendship will be forgotten. Satisfaction will always be a question. Happiness will always be for them to work on. And that’s it, commitment is like engaging into a contract, you have the obligation to comply, to deliver or to give, and when you fail, you will surely be liable for what it takes. Either you lose your partner, or you lose yourself. One does not simply put their eye on a single thing, because when that single thing vanished, you really don’t know what’s next, baby.
On a random Monday night, I feel like writing about this. Ask me why. I really don’t know why.
Being in love and being into a relationship. I am very certain that I’m not guilty with the latter, but certain that I am in the former.
Doing a differentiation between the two is quite fun. You have to squeeze your inner reasoning power to come up with a comparison. Some facts here are really not a fact. (Bro, ang labo).
Rule # 1: Everything that happens will always be the result of your choice, so when love hits you, learn to weigh your options.
